Do you want to know how to stop caring about what people think of you? Do you care too much about the opinions of others? Let me tell you something. I do. Yes, I admit it, I do.
I am a 30 year old grown woman, and I still care way way waaaay too much about what other people think of me. And you know what the worst part is?
Those “other people” are mostly STRANGERS. And I am done, so so done. Are you done too?
Join me! I wrote down all my reasons why I should stop caring about what other people think of me and why YOU shouldn’t care either. Let’s free ourselves from this burden. Let’s go!
Life is too dang short to keep caring about what others think of you
Hey you, yes you. Do you realize this life, your life, is not a trial run? There are no do overs, no refunds, no starting over. THIS IS IT. And let me tell you another thing. I am sorry to bring this to you. But you will DIE. We all will. That includes you. You will die one day, nothing is more sure in life than the fact you will die.
Picture this, 95 year old you is on your deathbed surrounded by all your loved ones. You look back at your life. Trust me when I tell you that you don’t want to say something like this. “Oh dear, I wished I lived a better and more fun life, but Jenny from next door and all the strangers I came across in my life maybe thought my ideas would be weird, so I never did anything I really wanted to do”. Now it is too late. Bye.
Horrible. That is just freaking horrible. But it is reality. So many people regret things on their deathbeds. Don’t let this be you. I don’t want it to be me either.
It scares me. And I hope it scares you too. Because when it scares you, there is hope for you, hope you will change what you need to change for you to be your true self. Life can be over before you know it. Don’t waste time. Don’t waste life. Stop caring about what people think of you.
People care about themselves
“I don’t care what you think about me, I don’t think about you at all” – Coco Chanel
Can I get an AMEN for this quote from Coco Chanel?! AMEN. Thank you.
And it is so true. People care mostly about themselves. And that is not a bad thing. It is not selfish.
Let’s take an example. When you post a video on your instagram, you notice the way you say some words in a weird way (hey, these are your thoughts, not mine), but when you watch someone else’s video, you wouldn’t notice the same things. That is because we are so focused on ourselves.
Of course there will always be people that “care” about what you will do. But you will leave their minds the moment they see something/someone else. What is on their minds maybe for 5 minutes will be on yours for days, and maybe even forever. Don’t let it ruin your dreams. People just focus on themselves so much, they really don’t spend that much time thinking about you and your dreams.
Not everyone will like you and that’s OK!
I like to be liked. Do you too? I think most people do to be honest. How fun is it, everyone thinks you are nice, everyone likes you. Sounds fantastic doesn’t it?
But in order to be liked by everyone, you can’t really have any opinions, because when you share an opinion…ohh…. be sure at least one person will not like it. And now, not everyone likes you anymore. Dream destroyed.
You simply can’t please everyone if you want to stay true to yourself. Not everyone will share your views, your beliefs, your opinions. And that is okay. Some people might just not like you and never will have any reason for it. That’s okay too. You don’t have to understand it. Sometimes things just are the way they are.
If someone dislikes you, it is not the end of the world. You don’t like everyone yourself either, do you? Does it make the people you don’t like bad people? No it doesn’t. It says something about you, not them. The same applies to the people that don’t like you, it says something about them and not about you.
Even if you do nothing. Some people will judge you and not like you. I rather be not liked for doing something I love than to be not liked for well.. just existing.
So, don’t care about what other people think of you. Life is too short and people only think about themselves anyways. Be free, be you and be true to yourself. Nobody is better at being you, than YOU.
Keep reminding yourself
Practice makes perfect. If you at this moment cares so much about what other people think of you. This will not be solved in one day. For me it took several years to care less and less. And sometimes I still care way too much. It is a process. So keep reminding yourself of these most important reasons:
- Life is short and you will die one day, don’t have regrets.
- People care mostly about themselves.
- It’s okay to not be liked.
- Be true to yourself.
It is not easy to stop caring about other people’s opinions. I know. But I promise you it will get better if you keep reminding yourself why you should live your own life, for you, and not for strangers.
Be like this lady and stop caring about what others think of you
Put your legs out of your car window (be careful tho, and at your own risk), let your hair down, feel the sun on your legs, the wind softly touching them. Driving slowly, but in the right direction. It sometimes is a bumpy road but it is your road, it is your car, drive it yourself and enjoy the ride.
ENJOY THE RIDE!
*This post contains only my opinion and personal experience, please read the disclaimer for more information.